Tuesday, December 28, 2010

Chocolate Fire

Last Christmas Day, Rod took me and his family to visit Chocolate Fire at Salcedo Village right after dinner for coffee and desserts.  They had a wide array of chocolates on display, but they didn't allow photos to be taken.  Good thing Pam was able to sneak a few photos of Joshua looking at the display of various cakes and you can see on his face the pure unadulterated joy in seeing them.  How I wish sometimes that we could go back to this time, when things were so simple, so uncomplicated and so un-jaded that the sight of chocolates could bring us to do a happy dance.

Mommy I want this cake!
And that one too!
Excited....
Yum...so many chocolate cakes to choose from...
Happy dance....
It's a joy to see all these things again through my kid's eyes.

Saturday, December 25, 2010

Pregnancy Journal - Part II (KENJI)

My Pre-Kenji Life:  Before I had Kenji, I already had an 8 month old at home.  We really didn't plan on when we would be having our 2nd child, but we just knew that we were going to have them close in age.  I felt like I wasn't really getting any younger so the next few years would be crucial in our decision on how many kids we want to have.

The First Inkling: Rod and I went to Indonesia to attend his friend's wedding in Surabaya in February 2009.  And after the wedding, we decided to stop by Bali, since we've been hearing a lot of good stuff about it.  It was also a chance for me to travel again, after a long while, since I really wasn't allowed to travel while I was pregnant with Joshua.  And it was our chance to take some time together, just the two of us.  Since I have a very long and irregular cycle, I really didn't think that I could get pregnant so fast and easily.  But when March 2009 came around and I still didn't get my period, I just knew I was pregnant.  I took several pregnancy tests since the first few came out negative.  But I still had a feeling that I was pregnant even if the tests said otherwise.  So after a week of waiting for the tests to catch up with what I knew, my pregnancy was confirmed.   


Picking a Name: This time around, my pregnancy was a lot easier on my body.  I guess it was because I already knew what to expect, so I wasn't as stressed or worried about it.  I ate what I wanted, did what I wanted and just relaxed.  I also had Joshua at home already so I really didn't have that much time to worry.  

At first I thought I was going to have a girl, because everyone was complimenting me about my "special pregnancy glow".  And I did agree that I looked better this time.  But for some reason, at the back of my mind, I also had the thought that this was going to be another boy.  We picked out the name "Kenji" because I heard a father calling his son this name at the airport and I really loved it.  When i checked the meaning of the name, our minds were made up because Kenji meant "intelligent 2nd son", which is quite appropriate.  The middle name "Lee" is my mother's maiden name.  

The First Trimester: By the time I visited my OB's clinic and had my first TV ultrasound, I was also around 8 weeks pregnant and given a November 6, 2009 due date.  This ironically was also Rod and my official engagement date.  The first three months were quite similar with what I went through with Joshua.  Aside from a few bouts of morning sickness, everything was textbook and normal with my pregnancy. I tried to get as much sleep as possible because I felt so tired everyday and I had to stay away from the kitchen. Strong scents and tastes made me queasy so I ate very bland food like hard boiled egg with rice,and I didn't like the sight of dark / black food.

The Second Trimester: When I entered my 2nd Trimester, I did worry a bit that I might have the same problems as my previous pregnancy with Joshua and having to be put on bed rest.  But thankfully, everything went smoothly and my routine stayed the same.  By the 6th month, it was confirmed that we were having another baby boy.  It was so clear on the ultrasound, the technician didn't even hesitate.  Here's a 4d photo of Kenji while in my womb.  Amazing how clear images are today right?


The Third Trimester: By this time, I really felt like I needed a break.  I really expected to give birth earlier than my due date because that's what happened the first time around, but Kenji really had a mind of his own.  As my due date drew nearer, he was no where near ready to come out.  My tummy was really getting big and he was getting heavier everyday.  I because clumsy and so ungraceful.  I also ate a lot this time coz I was constantly hungry, and I wanted big honking steaks to boot!  I also craved sweets and my cousin was laughing at me coz I think I ate almost every 2 hours in the office.


But this was also the time that Typhoon Ondoy hit the country.  My cousin and I were stranded in the office that fateful Saturday because we saw that even Buendia was flooded.  We were lucky that we were able to reach home safely by 5pm, with no traffic and flooding along the way.  Rod was out of the country that time and I had to drive myself to and from work everyday.  He got stranded in Hongkong that day, so Josh and I stayed at my mom's place since they had electricity, while our house was completely dark.  Thank God we survived Ondoy.

My Changing Body:  Although my tummy was really big this time around, I also gained the recommended amount of weight, like about 25-30 lbs. the whole 9 months.  This time I had really bad stretch marks in my tummy as Kenji really grew and grew inside of me, but I still seem to have really good hair and nails.  By time time I hit my 39th week, I was miserable and just wanted to give birth.  But imagine my disappointment when I had my doctor's visit on November 7th, and my OB told me that my cervix was still closed and not even 1cm dilated.

My Labour Experience:  So imagine my surprise when I woke up at 4am November 8th already in full-fledge active labour!  I woke up to go to the bathroom and I felt like my back was aching and I kept on feeling contractions.  At first I thought this couldn't be coz I wasn't even 1 cm dilated the previous day.  But I woke Rod up and told him that we needed to get to the hospital.  By 6am, I was in the delivery room, being prepped since the resident doctor told me that I was about to give birth and 8cm dilated!  She told me not to push at all as I might just give birth right there and then.  Good thing my OB lived nearby and was able to be there in time.  After 20 minutes of pushing, we welcomed Kenji Lee Uy Chua into my arms at 7:20am.  He was born 8 lbs, 1oz , 51 cm long.  All the nurses were telling me how big my baby boy was.  I was just so happy that he's finally in my arms, and not inside of me kicking and stretching my tummy even more!  And my Rod was with me again the whole time, taking pictures and making sure that we were okay.

God, the abuse our bodies take during our pregnancies.  But it truly is a labour of love...and all worth it when we have our healthy babies finally in our arms.


Joshua's first haircut - Oct 24, 2010

I've always cut Joshua's hair since he was a baby.  Just bought a hair clipper at SM Appliances and gave him a nice clean buzz cut.  But since he started going to school, I decided to grow his hair out and slowly move into bringing him to a real barber shop.  At first I was the one who trimmed the sides of his hair, but when it started becoming "malikot" and I couldn't get a straight cut, his dad and I finally brought him to Cuts 4 Tots at Greenhills V-mall for his first official haircut.  It wasn't as traumatic as I was expecting it to be, and he came out with a great cut!

Before we left from home.
Distracting him with a Thomas the Train movie on TV.
Prepping.... he chose to ride a car and it's time for a cut! 
Hmmm... should I worry mom?
Snip, snip, snip....buzz, buzz, buzz.....
Ta-dah!  Love the new cut!
Cheers!

Wednesday, December 22, 2010

Merry Christmas!


Merry Christmas everyone!  With all the parties, gifts, extended vacations and gatherings we have to go to, we sometimes forget to greet each other.  So have a Merry Christmas and hope the new year brings more joy, love and peace.  Cheers! 

Thursday, December 16, 2010

Happy 4th Anniversary!

Happy 4th anniversary my dear! Has it really been four years since we became husband and wife? I still remember that day really well...




You were so handsome that day....
And I wore a lovely gown...
I felt so beautiful.
I was so excited to get married....
And so happy that it was finally here.
My mom cried, 'coz her only girl was getting married.
But both our families were so happy for us.
We had a great big party for our family and friends.
We laughed a lot and had a blast.
We had singing....
And dancing...
And had a great big feast!
But what I remember most was how ready and happy I was to finally be your wife. I was ready to start our life together and build our dreams together. And I remember the vows and promises that we spoke to each other:
"I, take you, to be my husband,
to have and to hold,
for better or for worse,
for richer or for poorer,
in sickness and in health,
to love and to cherish,
from this day forward until death do us part"




And to this day, I still keep this vow close and sacred to my heart. Thank you for four wonderful years together, and wishing for a lifetime more of happy memories, wonderful miracles and wishes to fulfill. I love you.





*Photography courtesy of Pat Dy.

Friday, December 10, 2010

A Dying Mother’s Letter

From Motherlode
December 9, 2010, 11:20 AM

By LISA BELKIN

Saul Loeb/Agence France-Presse — Getty Images
Maybe it is because I write a parenting blog. Probably it is simply because I am a parent. Whatever the reason, I spent yesterday thinking of the youngest Edwards children, 12-year-old Emma Claire and 10-year-old Jack — of the lifelong pain that comes from losing a parent so young, and of the searing sadness that parent feels, knowing she will be leaving.
I remembered a story I read years ago, about how Elizabeth Edwards was readying her children for the day she would die. She was writing them a letter — a primer of sorts — about everything a mother realizes she won’t be there to say. I tracked that story down yesterday, to a 2007 article by the People magazine reporter Sandra Sobieraj Westfall, written when John Edwards was still in the presidential race. It said:
There is a letter Elizabeth Edwards has been writing, on and off, ever since she saw “Terms of Endearment,” the 1983 movie in which a dying mother leaves behind advice for her children. Edwards’s version, although titled “dying letter” on her computer, is actually more a guide to living for the three children she is preparing to someday leave behind. “It’s more than ‘How do you get the core out of a head of lettuce?’ ” Edwards says while taking a break during a campaign stop in Iowa. “It’s ‘How you choose who you marry and what to expect from that, how you choose a church.’ ” Looking across a playground at her two youngest monkeying on the jungle gym, she chuckles: “It’s got all that butting-my-nose-into-their-lives-long-after-I’m-gone stuff.”
On Good Morning America yesterday morning, Westfall recalled asking Elizabeth about that letter just a few months ago. Was it finished, she wondered, or was there still tweaking and adding to do?
“I’ll never be done,” Westphall says Edwards answered. “A mother is never finished giving advice to her children.”
I have been mentally composing a letter of life advice to my boys for the past 24 hours, but I am daunted by the enormity of the task. Where to begin? What to include?
What would you want to be certain to write?